Since sexual boredom is so subjective, it means different things to everyone, and there’s no precise amount of time when sex becomes boring. A couple’s sex life is as unique as they are, so you can’t put a timeline on passion or boredom.
If you always wait for your partner to initiate sex, take the lead. You might feel vulnerable doing this, but putting yourself out there will strengthen your connection to your partner.
For example, you might say, “It seems like we’re in a bit of a rut with our sex life. I was thinking we could try some new things. What do you think?”
For instance, you might try something that you’ve never done as a couple. Do role-playing, sexy talk, phone sex, or set a romantic mood.
You might go out to a concert, hit the trail, or try a new activity like dance classes or rock climbing. If you’re not sure what to do together, have one person take the lead and plan a surprise date. Then, trade-off so next time, the other person comes up with the fun activity. This can keep your dates surprising and exciting.
For instance, a sex therapist might help you explain to your partner what you’re hoping for from sex. If you have a hard time talking about sex, they can help normalize it so you feel comfortable talking about it.
